By Success Books Writer Denise Turney @ (www.chistell.com)
Funny how the mind creates the illusion that it’s Simple Simon easy to fulfill goals. You see the end before you start pursuing a goal. Within seconds, the beat of your heart picks up. Images of your success float with clarity across your mind. Joy, peace, and hope are constant emotions, remaining with you like faithful friends. Certainty is your friend. Then, you start working to fulfill your goal. Day after day, you’re forced to wait. Weeks and months pass – little change in your life. How do you keep going when faced with delayed success?
Facing Delayed Success
Do you give up, forfeit your goal? Although this choice could save you time, money, and disappointment, it won’t erase your goal. Deep within, the seed of your dream remains. Even if years pass, regret could jab you. So, you try again.
Perhaps you work a demanding job to gain access to funds to invest in your goal. At most, you’re rewarded with minimal success. Creatives aren’t the only people who experience this. Business owners, educators, inventors, scientists, healthcare professionals, ministers, and community leaders walk this path.
In a way, it’s as if the mind is playing a game, planting twists, turns, and setbacks on your path to see if you’ll figure out what’s really going on. At some point, you start to witness and accept the link between your hidden thoughts and what transpires in your life.
Get To Know Yourself When Success Is Delayed
And you start to get to know yourself better.
Keep going. The goal or dream is within you for a reason. Fulfilling it will show you a lot about yourself, more than you might discover any other way.
Yet, you can’t keep doing what you’ve already done. Following someone else’s path also may not yield the results you’re seeking. Instead, you must pivot.
Just don’t pivot too soon. The only guidance that will work comes from within you. So, you must listen to your true Self. Finally, you must connect with your true Self.
Should you have been on the path of pursuing your goal for decades absent good results, you could be stuck. In this case, you might not be willing to try a different strategy. Push. Demand. Push. Trying the same old approach again and again might have become so familiar that you dare not consider trying a new way.
Delayed Success and Getting Stuck
Signs that this has occurred and that you’re stuck include:
- Unwillingness to track the return on your efforts (if you hate looking at reports, analytics, and spreadsheets, you might not want to examine the results of your best efforts)
- Focusing your energy on fantasy (daydreaming and inventing night dreams of you achieving success even as you move further away from the fulfillment of your goal)
- Feeling angry when someone ask you if you’ve achieved success yet
- Telling yourself that your ability to fulfill your goal rests with a source that’s beyond you, outside your realm of responsibility (in this case, you’d have to “wait” for this external source to magically give you what you want)
Avoid Digging In Your Heels Against Success
Dig in your heels as it regards dream fulfillment, and you may be forced to face reality. As tempting as it might be to hide in fantasy, don’t turn to illusion. Face what’s happening and pivot.
To repeat an earlier statement, consider using analytics to “face” what’s happening. This is important because great effort doesn’t always yield great success. It took me years to accept this. Deep down, I knew this truth, but I wasn’t willing to face it.
Combined with the belief that putting more effort into my goal would get me what I wanted; I had the belief that the goal would be fulfilled at a specific time. Today it seems “silly” that I believed that. Once I became aware of what I was doing, I focused on stopping, de-escalating, and removing myself from that mind-habit.
Working Hard For Success and Waiting
Despite my efforts, I kept believing that hard work and “waiting” for a “special” day to arrive would fulfill my goal. Talk about a painful dance.
If you’ve done this, you know what that struggle feels like. Life becomes a dance of “harder work” and “waiting”. Back and forth you go.
Return to analytics. Are you scaling upward? Or are you spinning in circles? Evidence that you’re scaling upward include:
- Increased sales, engagement, improved tests results, more peaceful relationships, etc.
- Decreased time, energy, and financial investment to yield increased sales, engagement, etc.
- Improved mental state (more peace and appreciation)
- More positive energy
- Feeling of openness, a welcomed lightness
Building Success Confidence
Confidence that you can achieve your goal is real, not fantasy, when you’re scaling upward. Why? You have evidence that the goal is coming to pass. For example, if your goal is to earn $250,000 a year from the sale of soups, salads, and sandwiches at your downtown café, your confidence would build the first year you netted $220,000, especially if the most you had previously netted annually was $150,000.
Gaining these results isn’t magic. Considering the above example, to yield better results, it wouldn’t be a surprise if somewhere along the way, you pivoted. You faced results and realized that you must pivot to fulfill your goal.
Signs It’s Time To Pivot
Here are signs that you must pivot to fulfill your goal:
- You’re committed to fulfill your goal and refuse to quit
- Results prove that you’re stuck
- Analytics show that instead of moving closer to your goal, you’re drifting away from your goal
- Fear that you will fail has become a constant companion
- Distrust in your true Self as it relates to your goal and your broader life has grown
If you believe that something is innately wrong with you, and that’s why you haven’t fulfilled your goal, that’s another sign that it’s time to pivot. Don’t give up on your dream. There’s nothing innately wrong with you. You can do it!
How To Pivot Toward Success
Pivot. Try a different strategy. Ways to pivot include:
- Meditating, getting still, and entering silence – until you receive inner guidance as to what you should do
- Adding new products and services to your catalog
- Updating existing products and services
- Partnering with a different business, creative, educator, agent, minister, etc., someone who has already achieved what you are trying to achieve
- Utilizing different messaging or marketing tools and techniques (if your goal involves sales)
- Earning a different certification, license, or degree
- Ending an abusive relationship to give yourself space to heal
- Listening to deep meditation tapes at night while you sleep
- Eliminated financial debt
- Taking money management courses
- Journaling to encourage hidden parts of your thought system to surface to your consciousness
- Incorporating actions into your day that help you love yourself
- Working with a career or life coach and holding yourself responsible for improving your circumstances
Balance And Success Strategies
The above list is not exhaustive. Seek strategies and actions you can take to pivot, to start moving closer to your goal. To stay balanced and encouraged while you pivot and continue doing what it takes to achieve your goal:
- Sleep deeply at night
- Eat a healthy diet
- Drink plenty of fresh water
- Exercise
- Read empowering books
- Surround yourself with positive, empowered people
- Trust Source
- Search for good in each day
- Practice appreciation
Pivot Your Way To Success
Trust what created you. Trust the Creator. Continue to trust what planted the dream in you. Although you might not see it, someone is watching you. It’s as if someone has been planted to be the witness to what happens when you pivot, don’t quit, and fulfill your goal – a good goal.
Let that happen, and your life could impact hundreds, thousands, or more people. That’s what happens when a Source given goal is fulfilled. The fulfilled goal blesses many people. So, keep going. Pivot. Succeed.
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