Monthly Archives: April 2013

Testing the meanings of your life’s dictionary

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By Denise Turney

Believe it or not, meanings we give events, including expressions other people wear when they’re around us, could play in our favor. Meanings in our personal (internal) dictionary could also set us back, causing us to believe that people don’t care for us, aren’t supporting us, think we’re boring, etc.

Keep this us and it won’t be surprising if we start feeling insecure, maybe even depressed. But, what if the meanings we give events are wrong? What if a man frowns at us on a train because he’s dealing with acid reflux, an ulcer or arthritis? Surely, he wouldn’t have to stop and tell us and everyone else he met why he was frowning. Would he? Would you if you were the one frowning due to physical pain? Would you have to tell everybody you met why you were frowning?

It’s a reason it’s an excellent idea to leave room for the wonderful fact that the meaning you give an event just might be WRONG!  If you leave just a little room to consider that your personal dictionary might have wrong meanings in it, you could avoid stress, sleepless nights, fatigue, frustration, etc.

You might even really start to live . . . for the first time.

You might stop allowing other people’s expressions and conversations to have control of your day, how you feel about yourself, etc.

Thank you for reading my blog. To learn what happens to Raymond, Brenda and the other characters in Love Pour Over Me, hop over to Amazon.com, B&N.com, Ebookit.com, or any other online or offline bookseller and get your copy of Love Pour Over Me today. And again I say – Thank You! Consider Love.

You are your life events’ dictionary

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By Denise Turney

Searching for the meaning to a word? There’s a good chance you can find what you’re looking for in a dictionary. Similar to how a bilingual woman working for a travel agency interprets the words of her manager to customers, so too, you give interpretations or meanings to each event in your life.

How so, you ask. If a tall, burly man with an unkempt beard frowns at you each early morning he boards the same train you take into the city, you give the man’s expression meaning. In other words, you tell yourself what the man’s expression means. Then, you respond to this interpretation psychologically and emotionally. Who knows? Years from now, scientists may discover that we respond to our own interpretations more deeply than we currently realize.

The thing about our interpretations is that we really don’t know WHY an event occurs. We really don’t know WHY someone has an expression on his face. Returning to the example of the man boarding the train, you might tell yourself the man is mean, selfish, unhappy, violent or mentally imbalanced. All this from an expression, and remember — you don’t even know the man.

We do this all day long.

Now consider that what we focus on or think about repeatedly shows up in our life more and more. Can’t you see more people wearing frowns, seemingly looking down at you, appearing in your life? Before long, you might start to think that the world is one mean place. What you probably would never do is consider how your interpretations of events/experiences created a chain reaction.

Thank you for reading my blog. To learn what happens to Raymond, Brenda and the other characters in Love Pour Over Me, hop over to Amazon.com, B&N.com, Ebookit.com, or any other online or offline bookseller and get your copy of Love Pour Over Me today. And again I say – Thank You! Consider Love.